We all know that there are many differences between boys and girls. Our physical appearances are different and how we react to situations also differ. There have been some books that state that even brain development between boys and girls are different. This has led to the difference in learning styles, school performance and behaviour of these young people.
Most often, when young boys and girls reach their adolescent stage they undergo different difficulties. A girl may experience anxiety, bouts of depression, bullying, eating disorders and problems on self-esteem, body image and social skills. Boys, on the other hand, may experience social difficulties, loss and grief, risk taking behaviour, relationship problems, feelings of worthlessness and other similar problems with self-esteem, bullying, anger management and body image. Even if some of their problems are alike, we should keep in mind that how they respond to these problems will be very different.
A book written by Michael Gurian, Boys and Girls Learn Differently, states that not only do boys and girls differ in behaviour but also in brain function specifically in spatial reasoning and language. "Boys tend to be better than girls at being able to calculate something without seeing or touching it," says Gurian. And on language, Gurian claims that females produce more words than males. These differences must be dealt with accordingly. Knowing these differences not only help counsellors but parents as well.
That is why as parents and teachers we should be aware that there are different approaches or counselling methods that are needed when dealing with young people. It may be harder for boys to admit that they have problems and even harder to be open about their problems. Most do not seek help immediately or even seek help at all. With specialized counselling for girls and boys, help will be well on its way for these young people. Realizing that the needs of girls and boys are different will help us understand them, and, in turn assist us in addressing their problems more effectively.
Counsellors who are more experienced with the different needs of boys and girls know what tools to use or what method they can apply in helping them. Emotional development for these young boys and girls may be difficult but knowing that a support group is present for their needs will be of great assistance.
Most often, when young boys and girls reach their adolescent stage they undergo different difficulties. A girl may experience anxiety, bouts of depression, bullying, eating disorders and problems on self-esteem, body image and social skills. Boys, on the other hand, may experience social difficulties, loss and grief, risk taking behaviour, relationship problems, feelings of worthlessness and other similar problems with self-esteem, bullying, anger management and body image. Even if some of their problems are alike, we should keep in mind that how they respond to these problems will be very different.
A book written by Michael Gurian, Boys and Girls Learn Differently, states that not only do boys and girls differ in behaviour but also in brain function specifically in spatial reasoning and language. "Boys tend to be better than girls at being able to calculate something without seeing or touching it," says Gurian. And on language, Gurian claims that females produce more words than males. These differences must be dealt with accordingly. Knowing these differences not only help counsellors but parents as well.
That is why as parents and teachers we should be aware that there are different approaches or counselling methods that are needed when dealing with young people. It may be harder for boys to admit that they have problems and even harder to be open about their problems. Most do not seek help immediately or even seek help at all. With specialized counselling for girls and boys, help will be well on its way for these young people. Realizing that the needs of girls and boys are different will help us understand them, and, in turn assist us in addressing their problems more effectively.
Counsellors who are more experienced with the different needs of boys and girls know what tools to use or what method they can apply in helping them. Emotional development for these young boys and girls may be difficult but knowing that a support group is present for their needs will be of great assistance.
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At PS Children, we understand that boys & girls have different needs. Our Consulting Psychologists are experienced in engaging boys & girls in what can sometimes be a difficult experience for them, and exploring sensitive issues that are causing distress. Find out more information visit Counselling Boys.
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